BAD RELATIONSHIPS

Bad Relationships

Are you in a Bad Relationship? Are you single and looking to avoid getting into a bad relationship? Here are 3 easy steps to take that will cost you nothing, but save you time, money, stress, strain, and pain.

When people to talk to me about their relationships and ask me for my honest opinion, some times I find myself hesitant to say my initial reaction to their question! This question is usually preceded with an explanation, (“their’s”), of what happened, meaning for the most part, why the relationship is failing.

The conversation may start off like this, for instance; “Hey Ant/Tony do you have a minute?” My reply is “Of Course, What’s going on?” “Well it’s my relationship with [insert name here], we’re not getting along with each other! “We’re constantly arguing, I’m not happy, and he’s not happy, what am I to do?” “Why won’t he just listen?” she says with hurt and disgust in her voice. Then, while standing there trying to take it all in, she asks for my honest opinion! Once again I say that I’m hesitant because I understand the following things about her question:

I’m only hearing 1 side of the problem relationship

She’s emotional and her judgment could be clouded by the emotions

She never stated blatantly where she was wrong in the situation

As these are all very good reasons to be hesitant when giving advice to a person about their relationship, because to respond instantly and base your opinion solely off what only one person says/feels is not wise at all. You could lose a friend, or damage a relationship further. The breaking up of the couple is for them to decide.

However, the best way to be a friend or counselor is to cause the person to think and act. Why should I try to get a person to think? Better yet, you may wonder, “How do I get a person to think, and think about what?” Well this is the first step:

NEEDS & WANTS

Sometimes if not most we confuse to the two! A need is something that has to be in your life in order to sustain it. We all need water, clothing, shelter, and a companion! A want is a desired thing because of some surface characteristic; hair, shape, color, smell, etc. The things for her to think about, or consider is when you met this guy were you attracted to him because of “him”, the person, or was it because you thought he was nice looking? He had a nice job or car?

If you were attracted to him for him, then chances are you have a good relationship but it’s going through a tough stretch so you have to just tough it out until things ease up. Other than that you two began with the proto-typical “bad relationship” start. The bad relationship start is easy to detect, and avoid. Now we’re all human so attraction to each other is going to be apart of the process. The key thing is to not stop there. Make it your business to get to know this person. To test your feelings truly, think of it this way, if this person was sick, badly hurt, imprisoned, or maimed even; would you care for him? The natural response is to say yes, however could you do it for 2 yrs.? 5 yrs.? 10 yrs.? These are very tough questions to ask yourself, but if you stick with a person through the extreme situation, surely you can deal with the second step of avoiding the “bad relationship”!

COMMUNICATION:

If you’re reading this and you are not in a relationship currently, I’m pleading with you to apply these principles at the beginning of your next relationship! Establishing solid communication between the two of you will save you time, headaches, and pain-it is so necessary I can hardly stress it enough. To amplify its’ importance think of it like this, especially for those in a relationship good or bad; if you work to get good & honest communication you can move the relationship up for Step 1. To make that clearer let’s say you’ve in a relationship 3 or 4 years but you all rushed into it and now you’re having problems, after problems! He’s not talking to you, and you hardly try to talk to him, and this pains you to the point you thinking of leaving the relationship altogether! Okay, now you’ve come across this article and you want give these steps another try, but with a renewed focus this time. I’m saying that since the two of you have been together for a considerable amount of time, it is better to focus on communication because when start asking the right questions you will essentially cover everything in Step 1. What are the right questions you may ask? How’ll about asking him what he wants from the relationship? Ask if he realizes the difference between needs and wants? If not explain it to him and give him some time to get a grasp of what you are saying. Effective communication will cover Steps 1 & 2, for those who already in a relationship, and want to avoid it becoming a “bad relationship!”

This leads us to Step 3…

PARTICIPATION:

One of the most crushing blows to a relationship is the lack of participation. Being selfish has very rarely done anything to help a relationship! Does your relationship has this feeling; He doesn’t want to be involved with things you like and you don’t want to do the things he like, and both of you are strongly standing on your respective points! But really what’s the “POINT” here? Isn’t it to build a relationship together? Don’t you have to be together, in order to “be together”? Can’t spend at least a little time together, outside of sleep!

Here’s what I’m saying, if you don’t have it in your heart to do some of the things he like to do just because that’s what he likes, then there will always be a problem in your relationship! He has to do the same for you as well! You may not like what he likes, but being supportive works wonders for the bonding of the relationship. You make sure that he does this for you also! Trust me any relationship that you are in or see others in that have only one person trying to keep it together, are on the “bad relationship” road! It may even work for them, but the stress and strain that they will go through may not be bearable for the average person out here. You can avoid this stress and strain by establishing that balance for the two of you.

So keep in mind to make sure the both of you support each other enough so no one feels like they’re the only one making an effort. Also, I must put this disclaimer here; I am not, I repeat; I AM NOT implying that you help him do something illegal, or that he helps you do something illegal! This is simply an attempt to give you a path to a better relationship through 3 easy steps that you can apply at any and every point of your relationship. Put them into effect now, and you will have laid the foundation to never have a “bad relationship” again!

By Anthony Willis
Anthony Willis works as a relationship consultant to friends and colleagues. He has help many save struggling relationship of people from various levels society.
He can be reached at your_relationships@yahoo.com

RELATIONSHIP FORUM

RELATIONSHIP FORUM:
3 KEYS TO GETTING THE BEST OUT OF THEM FOR YOU


People have been asking me about this for a while. The questions range from; What’s the best relationship forum? Who should I trust in a Relationship Forum, the administrator or the commentators? Why should I look into a relationship forum at all, what’s the use, it seems like a bunch of people spewing their problems to the whole? Why bother? Who cares?

Well, YOU should! The purpose of a forum is for open discussion between people. The Romans built large buildings for this purpose, however in our society we are able to do the same, both in the traditional function and on the net. However I do caution people that you can lose large amounts of time just looking at questions and responses in these forums. It’s kind of like going to a sporting event and trying to listen to every conversation that is being held; you could waste a lot of time. So the key things to do are:

1. Go In With Your Filters On
2. Only Respond In Short Answers
3. Leave Your Contact Info For Further Discussion

Follow these 3 simple keys and you’ll realize the beauties of a relationship forum. In these relationship forums you can find out problems to avoid, solutions to similar problems that you have and some that you may have come across. It’s better to be prepared and/or spared of problems. In other words, learn from other people mistakes and mishaps. You’ll be surprised by reading the questions and answers that you’ll see yourself and your sweetie in those posts. So use the forums wisely, and to your advantage.

Here’s how to apply the 3 keys:
1.) Go In With Your Filters On
Know what you’re looking for, before you even go into the relationship forum and by golly stick to it. It may take some practice but after a while you’ll get use to it. Just keep in mind your subject, whether it’s relationship money, bad relationships, or long term relationships, whatever. The point is to stick to the point.

2.) Only Respond In Short Answers
Let’s be honest the chance that you see a post that either extremely helps you or makes you wonder, “what was this person thinking when they posted this crap?” is very high because you’re looking at a subject that has your interest! Don’t let (you) waste your time either with these long winded time consuming (from typing) responses. Remember K.I.S.S.? Apply it here!

3.) Leave Your Contact Info For Further Discussion
This is straight to the point. You can type your url in the body of your post, or if the forum allows you always have a link to your url, whenever you post this is fine also. The reason for the further discussion is if you truly want to talk to the person for whatever reason; debating, seeking understanding, etc.

Always keep in mind that your time is precious and all that excess time that you wasted looking around that relationship forum, you could have been spending it with your sweetie. Always apply these 3 keys to any forum, especially a relationship forum.

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ONLY MEANT TO HELP

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ONLY MEANT TO HELP

The purpose of the content this blog is only meant to help. The content that we'll be going over will serve as a way to think proactively about your relationship, where it is now, and how much better it will be for you later on. I'm not here to toy with your emotions or change the person that you, only you can change you! No matter what anyone says or does in your life, circumstances in your life are greatly a result of choices you have made or will make. So through out everything that we go through BE YOURSELF, and with discussion better your relationship for you, and your man's sake.

I know some of your relationships are going just fine, and there's absolutely no problem with that, most of our's are unfortunately not so lucky. The relationship is tired, worn down, rocky, turmoilish (is that even a word!?), but you get the idea. Some of our relationship emotionally kind of go like the shape of this "W," you know up, down, up, down, and up again; hopefully!

It starts off so sweet, so happy, so innocent! How many of you remember those days, way back when… or all the times you said to yourself, to him even that he's too good to be true. "This what I've always wanted in a man," how many of you have said that, and you meant it too, didn't you? Don't be afraid you can admit it, this is good time to be honest with yourself; no time is better than the present. Say it, "I love that man," now louder "I LOVE THAT MAN!" But, but , but he gets on my damn nerves so bad sometimes that I could just beat him up(w/ a pillow of course). Remember, now this is the man that you say you love, right, right! Well now that we have agreed that you love this man, or like him a whole lot, that leaves the question; Do you love being with him? Do you LOVE being around him day in day out. Yes? No? Maybe so? Who knows?

Here's a secret; YOU KNOW! Allow me to repeat myself,; throughout everything that is discussed in this blog(s) always, always, always BE YOURSELF, and DON'T LIE TO YOURSELF about your relationship! Please don't do that no more from here on out, because you cheat yourself, your relationship, and in essence anytime that happens the person, male/female is cheating on their spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, hubby, man/woman, etc., with those lies. Think about every time we lie to ourselves you live with that/those lies day in, day out. Waking up with that lie, eating dinner with that lie, going to the mall, going to work, …, and even sleeping with that lie. Let it go and be true to yourself, for your good and those around you. Later We'll discuss "WHO ARE YOU!"

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